Going through a divorce is one of the most difficult ordeals an individual can go through in their lifetime. A very important decision that must be made is whether or not to use a divorce lawyer and choosing that lawyer. A judge once told me that there are three instances, in her opinion, that one needs a lawyer, if there is a (1) Long term marriage; (2) Children; or (3) a home.
For argument sake, let's assume that you are going the attorney route with your divorce. Who do you hire? How do you find one? Do you ask a friend or look one up on Google. It doesn't really matter how you find an attorney but, what matters most is whether this is the attorney for you. One important consideration is will this attorney listen to you and be available when you need to speak with them.
As I mentioned previously, this is truly one of the most traumatic events of one's life. It's very important that you feel heard and that your attorney is listening. So, during your first consultation, did the attorney spend time with you? Who talked to the most? Did they listen to your story or did they want to tell you about their achievements? If the attorney wasn't attentive during the initial consultation, chances are they aren't going to suddenly be interested in what you're going through. It's very that you feel heard and supported by your attorney. However, remember, you are not your attorney's only client so be patient. Most attorneys will make every effort to return your call within 24 hours. If it's been one week and you're still waiting for a call back, this may not be the attorney for you. Also, and this is important, remember your attorney is paid for the time they spend on your case, including phone calls and emails. Be judicious when calling or emailing your attorney because "time is money."
The attorney-client relationship is very important to the successful resolution of your case; take the time to make sure it's a good match.